In IFS circles, "Self energy" often gets top billing—calm, clarity, compassion… you know the list. But somewhere along the way, the message can morph into: parts are the problem. And for therapists? That can feel like a setup for shame.

This conversation challenges the unspoken hierarchy in IFS that elevates Self over parts. Instead, we’ll explore how parts energy—especially therapist parts—can be welcomed, honored, and even useful in the healing process.

We'll dig into:

• How the "Self or bust" mindset can actually make IFS harder to practice

• Why therapist parts aren't barriers, but valuable co-regulators and allies

• Practical ways to stay present and attuned with your parts, not in spite of them

If you've ever felt like you're doing IFS “wrong” because your own stuff shows up—you’re not alone. And you're not doing it wrong. You're doing it human.